tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8339764994253890828.post3329573057583247022..comments2023-10-23T15:51:26.770-04:00Comments on borderlinePhD: Jane Sutures It Up; or, Can You Have a Personality Disorder and Be a Feminist Too?borderlinePhDhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08681276079795586997noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8339764994253890828.post-85179252845354429402021-05-31T03:43:09.774-04:002021-05-31T03:43:09.774-04:00
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Thank you for this response.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06325207399223808488noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8339764994253890828.post-60462875361930796402013-05-26T13:28:54.823-04:002013-05-26T13:28:54.823-04:00I have to say, having just discovered this blog, I...I have to say, having just discovered this blog, I'm sad that you don't keep it updated anymore. Do have you a new one? This discussion of feminist perspectives on BPD as well as the idea of BPD pride is really interesting-- it's something I'm only just now discovering. <br /><br />I'd like to add to the discussion as a man with BPD, having to deal with that double stigma, not only of having BPD but having it as a man, because it is not a traditionally "manly" form of mental illness. The traits that fall under the general banner of "neediness" are more expected from women than men. A woman is only criticized for being "too needy", but a man will be criticized for being even a little needy. The influence of feminism on our society has gone some length to transform the independent woman from a nuisance to a heroic figure, but the dependent man is still as much of a pathetic loser as he always was. He is a pussy, a mama's boy, a man-child... the list goes on. Men are seen as gender-traitors for their acting-in behavior just as women are seen as gender-traitors for their acting out. <br /><br />Despite the fact that epidemiological studies show the rates of BPD are fairly equal between the sexes, BPD is still seen as a disorder suffered by troubled young women with a history of sexual abuse. I am neither a woman nor have I been sexually abused, and yet here I am. To be a man with BPD is to be sort of invisible, especially in BPD-related literature. I don't know of a single memoir by a man on the experience of having the disorder, but to know of several by women, including yours. <br /><br />As for the question of BPD pride, I think the central issue, as with gay pride, comes down to whether or not you have the right to refuse treatment, whether or not you can say: I have a different brain from you and I want to take responsibility for it in my own way. Just as there is nothing intrinsically sick about being attracted romantically to the same sex, there is nothing intrinsically sick about having a high level of emotional insight-- sickness comes in only in how one may choose to deal with it. People with BPD are too often taught to be ashamed of their florid emotionality, of their need for close, committed relationships, even by those who are trying to understand and help them most. A certain degree of what we are taught to regard as "cognitive distortion" is really, I believe, an exquisite moral sensitivity-- an ability to peer more deeply into the nature of love and hate. Others without our gifts too often invalidate our insights as "too sensitive" or worse, "just your imagination". It's this "gaslighting," in my opinion, that actually drives us crazy when we do get crazy. It's not our minds themselves. <br /> Alvin Spearshttp://www.zombo.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8339764994253890828.post-28116510154338653962013-03-02T20:09:17.162-05:002013-03-02T20:09:17.162-05:00don't know if I want to go so far as to talk a...don't know if I want to go so far as to talk about BPD pride, am 9 days out of a relationship with a BPD person who cycled, at least with me, for the last time. So am in a lot of pain. But I did want to say is that I notice often BPD people have awesome spiritual powers. I don't think it is because of the BPD, I think that people who are not spritually strong are not going to survive BPD or the terrible traumas that gave rise to it in the first place. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8339764994253890828.post-1122954038478924912011-04-04T09:06:03.055-04:002011-04-04T09:06:03.055-04:00The question, 'Can I have a personality disord...The question, 'Can I have a personality disorder and be a feminist too?, is not asking the literal question about whether a person can have feminist politics and emotional dysregulation at the same time. Of course she (or he) can. Rather, the question raises the problem of dealing with a long history of persuasive feminist rejections of psychiatry (and the medical establishment and pharmaceutical industry) as mechanisms of social control that focus on helping (forcing?) women to adjust to heteropatriarchal inequalities in romantic pair bonds, marriage, and family dynamics in general. Many feminist theorists see psychiatry and the medical establishment as irreparably tainted by the role they've played in quieting female dissent. Other feminist theorists have countered this position by distinguishing between the potential positive uses of psychiatry and medicine in women's lives from the historically sexist deployment of these social institutions. I have gathered a shelf of books on this conflict between feminism and psychiatry and plan to read deeply on this subject over the summer.borderlinePhDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08681276079795586997noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8339764994253890828.post-67188127235696473292011-04-03T21:51:51.635-04:002011-04-03T21:51:51.635-04:00The whole idea of the typical BPD patient/client a...The whole idea of the typical BPD patient/client as being a woman is wrong. It has been undone in a recent study, which said that men and women have the disorder at egual rates. <br /><br />The original figure of BPD sufferers being 75% female came from looking at women within the mental health system. This added in a ton of bias. <br /><br />The more equal figure came from a study looking for personality disordered traits in the general public. <br /><br />I think you can be a feminist and a borderline in the same way you can be a Democrat, a Lutheran, or New Yorker and have BPD. The two really do't have much to do with each other. Both men and women have it equally (though some may express it in different ways). <br /><br />(In fact, just yesterday I received a letter from a sucidal male borderline (according to his diagnosis)).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com